If you’re looking for the best books about miscarriage to read when struggling with a miscarriage, this list of books should help!
The Truth About Miscarriage
As many as one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage. And yet, it can be an extremely isolating and devastating event.
I shared my honest feelings about miscarriage inside of this post here and this is part of the post that stood out most to me:
“Something inside me died that day, and I don’t know if I’ll ever get it back.
Everyone keeps asking “what do you need?”
I need to feel like I’m not a complete failure.
I need this to have never happened. I need these dark feelings to go away. I need people to stop telling me that “its for the best” or “you’re still young, you have plenty of time”. I need for people to stop minimizing my feelings. I need my baby back.
As a mother, I have a person to take care of. I don’t get to take time off to wallow in my sorrow and grief. I don’t get to lay on the couch in sweats with a blanket pulled over me as I want to, I have breakfast to make, books to read and games to play. I have a little person who needs me to be present more than I need to hide away. Because when mom is shaking on the floor, crying, and your toddler comes over to ask “you ok? mama ok?” and wipes away your tears, it makes you cry a little harder before you recover.
Because the worried look on H’s face as he watches me hurts almost as much as my emptiness does.”
For now, I want to share some of the best books about miscarriage that I have read along my own journey through miscarriage.
Books About Miscarriage
- I Had a Miscarriage: A Memoir, a Movement by Jessica Zucker
If you have followed me for any amount of time on Instagram you know that Dr Jessica Zucker is someone I found years ago after my second loss. She has done so much for me and my healing and my advocating for myself medically. I preordered I Had a Miscarriage: A Memoir, a Movement the second she announced it was available and ended up purchasing 30 additional copies for other loss parents.
Drawing from her own life changing experine as she miscarried her 16 week pregnancy at home, alone, as well as her epertise in maternal mental health, psychologist Jessica Zucker shares a heartbreaking and validating book about miscarriage. Together with her own stories as well as others who have experienced pregnancy loss, this book will inspire you to heal, and to speak your truth.
2. The Baby Loss Guide by Zoe Clark Coates
Zoe Clark Coates, one of the world’s leading baby loss experts, designed The Baby Loss Guide to help you during and through the complex issue that is miscarriage. The Baby Loss Guide provides practical and compassionate advice from a first-person perspective. Through her book, Zoe shares how she and her husband found their way through their heartbreaking losses and how they were able to keep their hope alive.
3. Saying goodbye by Zoe Clark Coates
Another personal story about baby loss from Zoe Clark Coates, Saying Goodbye hopes to help parents lost in grief. Alongside her own account of pain and unanswered questions, Zoe includes 90 days of daily support in Saying Goodbye. The hope is that during these 90 days you find solace and comfort, even during the most difficult days weeks, and months following miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death.
4. Healing Your Grieving Heart After Miscarriage: 100 Practical Ideas for Parents and Families by Alan D Wolfelt
This was a book a therapist recommended to me and I found it beneficial for those of us who may find a black and white blueprint for healing intriguing. Healing Your Grieving Heart After Miscarriage contains 100 practical ideas to help those suffering through a pregnancy loss. Ranging from practical, action oriented tips, suggestions for cultivating relationships through an isolating times, fostering communication between partners, reconciling loss, and more, this compassionate guide is for anyone grieving in the aftermath of a miscarriage.
If you’re looking for comfort and healing after a stillbirth, I’d suggest Healing Your Grieving Heart After Stillbirth: 100 Practical Ideas for Parents and Families instead.
5. Loved Baby: 31 Devotions Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child after Pregnancy Loss – A Devotional Book on How to Cope, Mourn and Heal after Losing a Baby by Sarah Philpott
Loved Baby is a Selah Award winner for Nonfiction Book of the Year and Best Book in the category of Inspiration and Gift. With this book, Sarah hopes to offer much-needed support to parents in the middle of the emotional and physical grief that comes from losing an unborn child to miscarriage, stillbirth, or pregnancy loss.
This very special devotional offers ways to memorialize your loss, Christ-filled comfort, tips to manage your social media, reconnect with your partner and nourish your soul, and more.
6. About What Was Lost: Twenty Writers on Miscarriage, Healing, and Hope by Jessica Berger Gross
Twenty writers come together in this intimate collection of their explorations in and through the grief and sadness and hope that living through a miscarriage can bring. Reading through their honest narratives was like looking in a mirror, my anguish and brokenness reflected in much more deeply moving words than I could hope to put together.
This powerful anthology looks to break the silence and stigma surrounding the topic of miscarriage and pregnancy loss with a wide array of experiences and perspectives and hopes to provide comfort and community.
7. The Miscarriage Map: What To Expect When You Are No Longer Expecting by Dr. Sunita Osborn
If you’re looking for an honest book about miscarriage, with all the nitty gritty and a little humor sprinkled in, I highly suggest The Miscarriage Map by Dr. Sunita Osborn. Armed with her clinical expertise and personal losses, The Miscarriage Map addresses the unspoken happenings after you lose a pregnancy. Things like the impact of miscarriage on a marriage/relationship, your relationship with your body after loss, hating pregnant people and more.
8. You Are Not Alone: Love Letters From Loss Mom to Loss Mom by Emily R Long
As the title suggests, Emily R Long’s book You Are Not Alone centers around one main idea, that you are not alone in your loss. It’s filled with stories and love from so many different women who have also lost pregnancies and experienced stillbirths, all with different loss experiences. Their letters will touch you in ways you didnt know you needed, and feel like they were written directly to you by the best of friends.
9. Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child by Kathe Wunnenberg
Author Kathe Wunnenberg hopes to help mothers whose hearts have been broken, and who wonder how they will go on. Grieving the Child I Never Knew is a 31-day devotional that includes readings for holidays and special occasions, scripture passage and prayer, steps toward healing questions, and space for journaling.
I hope you found a few books in here that sound like they might be able to help you or a loved one through their grief.
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