The biggest change I’ve tried to make this year is to “date” my husband more.
Our trip to Vegas for his birthday this past December was our first real time together since H was born 11 months prior, and it was a huge eye opener. I realized that I had been putting my role as a wife and partner on the way (way way) back burner, which was not doing our relationship any good.
I love being a mom, but I was (and in all honesty, still kind of am) letting it consume my everyday.
You may remember that I’ve decided to do monthly goals rather than big yearly resolutions, but this has been the one exception. My hubby and I promised each other that we were going to make each other more of a priority and do more together, sans baby.
My parents live less than 20 minutes away and are always begging us to bring H over to them, so it was silly that we were never taking advantage of their offer. I was worried that by devoting time to us and leaving H with them that I was being selfish and neglecting what should be my primary focus right now, but now that H is getting older, I think it’s more important than ever to help him be a little more independent from mama and to nurture and grow a relationship with the person I chose to spend the rest of my life with.
Sometimes we go out for dinner, a movie, drinks – the whole romantic shebang, or we go to Dave & Busters and play every game we can, and sometimes we’ve even just gone for drinks and ended up at Winco at 10pm on a Saturday night walking up and down every single aisle, not even buying anything. The romance and quiet is a nice change to our daily hustle and bustle, but I’ll admit my favorite dates are probably the ones where we act like goofy teenagers.
We challenge each other to see who can get the highest score in basketball, who comes in first on the driving simulators or who wins the most tickets.
We goof off, we make silly bets, we laugh so hard our cheeks hurt and it makes my heart so happy.
Dating again these past few months has helped us de-stress, relax and reconnect after a crazy first year of being parents.
I’m starting to run out of ideas for us to do that won’t break the bank, though, and I’d love some suggestions!
So tell me – what do you and your significant other do for day dates / date nights??